#Start First: Why it Took me so Long to Finally Start my Dream Blog – Lara Oseni

This month, we’d be featuring a couple of people who recently started something they’ve always wanted to do. They’d be sharing with us the fears they had, as well as the motivation and lessons they’ve got since they pushed themselves to take that first step. When writing the list of those I would interview, I didn’t go looking for some way-over-the-top-person whose story you might not relate with. No. Rather, I compiled a list of guys who are just like you and me (some of them you might even know …or not) to show you that you don’t have to be influential or a millionaire before you can start what you’ve always wanted to do.

Today, I’m starting with Lara Oseni.

Lara is a good friend from work, who has had the dream to launch her blog since forever. Thankfully, she recently did, so whoop! As with the rest, I packed all of the questions to ask her and gracefully, she was willing to share everything with us. Her interview was very interesting, partly because I might have bullied her (a bit) into coming over to my desk and also having the whole thing recorded as though we were on a show! (Audio version available on request, guys). In all, it was also a very enlightening interview.

Lara Oseni on Tirzah's blog
The lovely, Lara. #MelaninPopping

Lets just get right into it, shall we?


So Lara, we know you recently launched your blog. Can you tell us a bit about it?

Alright. Hmmn, I started my blog some weeks ago after many months of procrastination. Upon praying for a name, I got the name ‘Haven’. I didn’t even know what that meant. Not until I started everything. ‘Haven’ to me means a place where I can go and pour out everything in my head – the things I’m learning, what I’ve experienced, the questions I have and also get to share other people’s opinions and interact with others who might have questions too.

Ooh. That’s good. What’s your blog’s URL?

it’s laraoseni.wordpress.com

Laraoseni.wordpress.com. Okay. I know you’ve mentioned it before but when exactly did you conceive the idea to start blogging?

As far as I can remember, I’ve had the idea since mid last year, mid 2016. That was when I had the idea that ‘ooh, I want to start a blog’. Prior to that time, I started a mini talk show on whatsapp, every thursday at 8, where I used to talk to people about relationships. So when I met few of them, they told me ‘babe, why don’t you just start a blog, like start talking about these things on your blog so people can go back there and read whatever they missed’ Then, I would shelve the idea and say I wasn’t ready, but I knew I was going to do it eventually.

So when exactly did you open and launch the blog?

The first time I opened the blog was December 15th, 2016. I can remember very, very well. December 15th and I was doing some stuffs, then I stopped. I don’t know what happened. I just stopped and I kept postponing till February, 2017, finally.

Wow, that means you had like a whooping 6, 7, maybe even 8 months between the time you first conceived the idea and the time you published your first blog post. What do you think took you so long? What were the things that held you back?

Well, one, I wasn’t sure if I would be able to keep up. I kept asking myself if I won’t just end it when I start without achieving anything.

There was also fear. Like I was scared. ‘Would I ever be the next Linda Ikeji?‘ I know we are not in the same sphere but I was scared. ‘Would people ever visit or read the blog?’, ‘would I be short of content?’, ‘What was my next post going to be like?’, ‘would people comment? would people reply? would people like the blog?’ All those questions kept coming into my mind and that was what held me back.

Hmmn, that was what held you back. Okay so what now pushed you into starting, despite all of these fears that you had?

Weell, thanks to my good friends. Seun Olagunju is one. (lol). My good friends too. I can’t start mentioning them, but they pushed me.

Then, convincing myself too. Like ‘babe, you can do this. It’s not that bad’. That helped as well.

So you are saying that when we want to start something, could be a business, ministry or an enterprise, inspite of the fears we have or maybe the money involved, having good friends around you, as well as personally validating/motivating yourself go a long way to propel you?

Yes, of course.

Wow, I kind of had a similar experience starting the Lady Blooming {inserts the story I already shared here}, so I know that friendship really is a greater currency than money and I’m really glad you’ve started. So, now that you’ve started, any lesson you’ve learnt which you’d like to share with us?

Well, what I think is; as far as I know, as long as God is with you, you are fine. There will be fears and all, but if you are convinced that God is with you, then you are good to go.

But apart from that conviction .. cos, I can keep convincing myself  ‘I can do it, I can do it’ and still not do anything. So, apart from that conviction, what’s your take on consistency after starting?

Okaaay, starting is actually not enough. Consistency is also very important. Since I started the blog, I think I’ve only published 3 posts, you can imagine and it’s not like I don’t know what to write o. I mean, I’m boiling with ideas I can put on for like the next 3 months but one, I’ve been quite busy and two, procrastination, as well. So to help with consistency, I think planning ahead is important, and not just planning, but also going ahead to actually do it. I don’t know if that answers the question.

Yes, it does. So, what do you have to say to people who want to start something but need money. You’ve mentioned friendship and all but what if what I really need is money. I know money was involved in you starting your blog as well – buying your domain name, etc, so what would you say to us?

Okay, with my blog, one of the things that held me from starting was wanting to have my own domain name and all. I wanted a .com blog and all those things required money. I had to tell myself after waiting for so long that if I kept doing that, I would not start anything. So, even without the domain, I still started.

For others, if you can just bring yourself to make some sort of commitment by just starting with something, you can always get people to loan or fund you as time goes on.

Ooh, so what I hear you saying is that ‘just starting increases our chances to go all out, invest in it and continue’?

Yes, yes, it does.

Wow. Lara, this has been an enlightening interview. Thank you very much. 

*Smiles. Thanks for having me too.

There you have it guys. I hope you learnt something. Okay, so what did you learn? Share it with me in the comments. Also, if you have something you want to start but still holding back on, share with me. Who knows? I just might find someone within that field to share their story. I’d featuring next Omotola Okodugha, a vibrant young lady who recently started a budding talk show called ‘Talk with Tolla’ . Will let you know when that’s up (if you are subscribed. 😉)

That’s all for now. You guys should check out Lara’s blog. We love it.

Till later, with ❤,


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