Today, I’m going to do a quick throwback to that one time menstrual cramps almost killed me. I’m not exaggerating, guys. The pain was ex-cru-ci-a-ting!
Last year, we launched a campaign where a couple of girls (including myself) came out to share stories of the kinds of experiences we get daily based on how we look. We shared how these experiences made us insecure and how we were eventually able to overcome them. We called this campaign #iambeautiful.
When I told people that I had been redeployed back to Lagos for the completion of my National Youth Service year, I could literally feel some of them subtly jugding me. Like I had just deliberately changed God’s will for my life or something.
So, some of you know that I really, really wanted to get deployed to Lagos for my NYSC. My reasons were very genuine and viable, plus I registered really early (which I heard is supposed to be a bonus for a favorable posting). When the call-up letter however came out, guess where I got?
This morning, I left my house with a very heavy heart. For good reasons, I won’t give you guys the full details of what happened but it involved someone very, very, close to me and a realization that things might not just be as fine as I’ve assumed they are. It felt like I had been living an illusion all along, simply because I wasn’t the one putting food on my table and all of a sudden, someone flashed reality before me and it wasn’t pretty. So, through the ride to work, I was very sad. I wanted to smile, but I couldn’t. I couldn’t cry either. On the outside, I was just numb but inside, in my mind, a lot of things were going on.
Some weeks ago, a friend of mine edited a picture using Instagram-filters and in her caption, she had called Instagram an app. Then I thought, Instagram is just an app. Instagram really is just an app – Like the google play store and photo gallery. The only difference being that since we spend so much time on this app, it kinda now has an influence over us, even if we don’t know. It’s affecting the way we act, like that guy who lied to impress his online friends, what we think of others and consequently, how we begin to see and carry ourselves too.
Sincerely guys, the way I feel writing this post, I can only hope that words would properly convey them exactly to you. I have always felt that the rate at which people live ‘fake’ lives online these days is saddening, but I didn’t think it was something that should urgently be addressed until I found this picture, while scrolling through the net on Friday.
I have been insecure about many parts of my body in the past. The most significant one would be my boobs though and I already shared that with you here. I’ve however been able to overcome these insecurities over the years and have been trying to help others as well overcome theirs. Last weekend though, something happened and I’ll quickly share the story with you guys.
Last week, we featured Lara Oseni who recently launched her blog on the #startfirst series. Today, we are featuring Tola Okodugha. Tolla is a very young, beautiful and driven lady who also recently started her talk show ‘Talk with Tolla’ where she basically interviews budding entrepreneurs and then shares their lessons and stories with the rest of us.