Welcome to 2017. The story times series is a new feature on the blog and it will be running all through the year, every Wednesday by 4pm. As the name implies, here, I’ll simply be sharing life stories with you and lessons that can be drawn from them.
Today’s story is a true life event. However, I have withheld the real names of the people in it for the next post.
Many years ago, there lived a young man called Olumide. He was the son of a very wealthy man who lorded over a polygamous home.
As a result of this, Olumide had a lot of step siblings and everything was fine with their family until he fell in love with one of his step sisters, or so he thought. Her name was Seyi.
You know how this love thing works sometimes now? Because of Seyi, Olumide could not eat or sleep and eventually he became really really sick. Asides from the fact that she was his sister, Seyi was also a virgin and that just compounded the whole issue for Olu, making it even harder for him to get his hands on her.
He started to look very haggard and one day, one of his good friends, Tosin called him to ask what was wrong.
“I’m in love with my step sister”, Olu said, “but I can’t have my way with her.”
Now, Tosin had a very bad mind and quickly, he devised a plan.
The plan was simple. Olu was to pretend as if he was sick, after which he would tell his father he wanted Seyi to prepare him some food and feed him.
Olu acted as planned. When Seyi brought his food, he wouldn’t eat. He told her to first clear everyone out of the house and then bring the food into his bedroom, where she could feed him in privacy.
When she got there, Olu grabbed her. Realizing what her brother was about to do, she cried and said, “Olu, you can’t do this to me, I beg you. Think of me. How will I get rid of my disgrace and you – you, think of what this would do to you? Please! Let’s do this the right way. You can ask father for my hand in marriage. Please.”
But Olu wouldn’t listen. He finally had what he wanted. He would be mad to let her go again, but he was mad and the madness had overshadowed his senses. He tore at her clothes and nailed her to his bed. His bigger frame trapping her beneath him. When she tried to fight, he hit her. She screamed but there was nobody around to help her. Finally, after only fleeting minutes of one-sided pleasure, he was done.
Olu stood up and turned his back to her. He had finally slept with the girl he loved but it didn’t feel like he thought it would. When he turned to her, all he felt was intense hatred. In fact, he hated her much more than he loved her. Ignoring her tears, Olu yelled at her to get out. He never wanted to see her again.
Seyi cried, “No! Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you’ve already done to me.”
But Olu wouldn’t listen to her. He called his personal servants and told them to throw his sister out.
Seyi wept. Her clothes, the kind that virgins wore at the time, were now all torn and soiled. In pain and shame, she ran out of his quarters and into the hands of her own brother, Olawale.
Wale was surprisingly calm. “Has Olu done this to you?” he asked, “Don’t worry, Seyi. Be calm. He is your brother. Don’t take it to heart.”
But Wale himself was only pretending. He refused to say a word to his brother and he hated Olu so much for disgracing his sister.
As at the time of this writing, Olumide is dead. He died two years later from the hands of his brother, Olawale.
So guys, hope you enjoyed today’s story? In another episode of Story Times, I’m going to share with you how Olumide eventually died but for now, let’s see why Olu did what he did and pick out a couple of lessons from this story.
Feelings can be Deceptive, can’t they?
At the beginning of the story, Olumide thought what he felt for his sister was love, right? In fact, he loved her so much, he fell sick. Towards, the middle, we however see, that all he wanted to do was to have sex with her. That was all, evident in how he refused when she begged him to marry her.
I have often heard people ask how to rightly distinguish between love, attraction and lust. I can’t really speak for the last two, but I know that love is not selfish. I know that love is kind and gentle. It will not drive a man to force his way into a helpless woman, neither will Love hurt somebody else.
So, affirmatively, I can say that what Olumide felt for his sister was not love. It was lust and that drove him to do what he did.
Feelings can be deceptive and when they come on us, we need to be able to rightly distinguish exactly what it is we are feeling.
Who are your Friends?
You’ve most likely heard before that your friends can either make or mar you, right? (Mar means to ruin) It’s the truth. This is because, with your friends, you are vulnerable. Good friends advise you when you bring your issues to them, but bad friends do that too. In the story, Olumide was wrongly advised by his friend, Tosin. In fact, Tosin literally drew the entire rape plan for Olu and see what it led to.
Next week, I’ll share the events of Olu’s death and you’ll see how again, this same ‘friend’ had a huge part to play in it.
Now, did you learn any lesson from the above story? What are your thoughts on sexual abuse? I’d like you to share them with me in the comment section below. Also, if you have any question regarding life, love or sex, you can ask. On Friday, I’ll be having the first ‘Tirzah’s Family Q&A’ session and I’ll be answering all of your questions.
Quick Hint: Freebies Friday starts again this week and I will most likely be taking my question from this post. Yay! For reading, you deserve the expo. So, prepare. 🙂
Till later, guys.