How Hard Is It To Find Purpose?! {+3 Primary Things That Keep Me Going}

Hi guys,

First of, I’d like to say a big thank you to everyone of you who reached out to me on my birthday. {Birthday was on the 10th of October. If you didn’t reach out, I understand. You didn’t know. Still accepting gifts though. ☺}

I had a really great time. Yes, it was on a Tuesday and yes, I spent most of the day at work, but I did wake up to things said to and of me that made my heart melt, received a lot of surprises, got treated to a very special kind of lunch and got an after-work-mini-party thrown for me by my colleagues. It really was a memorable day. So, thank you.

Seun Olagunju

Moving on.

Today’s post was inspired by a friend who some time ago told me of how hard it’s been for her waking up every morning, trying to figure out what her purpose is.

She then asked me how I figured out exactly what my life was about; how I got my life in focus and got to know my purpose.

Of course, at this point, I had to ask her why she thought I had it all together and she said it’s because she is seeing me ‘do things.’

Now, it’s not unusual for things like that to happen. We see people do things, put up pictures of the things they are doing and we conclude that they have found ‘purpose’. It’s quite funny, really but the Holy Spirit used that meeting with her to teach me certain things. Things I will be sharing with you today.

Before I jump into the lessons though, I must tell you guys this. Finding purpose for me has been one of the hardest things ever. I look back now and I can see the different phases I’ve had to go through at different points on this journey.

I mean, there was a time in my life when I had no idea what purpose even meant.

Then there was another phase where I knew what it meant, knew that we all had been created for something but I didn’t just know what mine was. Everyone, at the time, seemed to be preaching ‘you have to find your purpose’, so of course this was everything that I was thinking of. Like a lot of other people, I thought fulfilling purpose meant I had to be doing something ‘significant’. Something everyone would celebrate me for. Something for which I too would be awarded or featured in some lists by magazines and blogs. This, of course, led to me being extremely bitter – at myself for not being able to come up with something to do and at my friends, who seemed to have ‘found their own purpose.’

Like the first, this phase too soon passed and I was faced with the next phase where I began confusing what my purpose should be with what everyone else was doing. So for instance, if two or three people I admired were up on podiums speaking, I would assume that to fulfill purpose, I too have to be on a podium speaking. Or if two or three people I admired visited orphanages and did charity work, I would assume that to fulfill purpose, I too have to visit orphanages and do charity work.

It was really hard, you know, not knowing what to do with my life and not finding fulfillment in anything I was trying so hard to make myself do or the person I was trying so hard to make myself be.

If you are in this phase too, don’t worry. ☺

Liberation for me came when I realized that my purpose in life is in God. Only God. I learnt that to know who I was and the things that God has created me for, I needed to first know who Christ was, enter a relationship with Him and have His Spirit lead me on the path that God has set for me to travel.

Guys, this revelation was like a breathe of fresh air. It felt like someone had just lifted some kind of load off my shoulder and suddenly, I was free – free from trying so hard to make myself do things by fire by force and just seeking to find purpose in places and things where it is not.

Now I am paying this knowledge forward to you, along with the other things I told my friend that day. It’s not like I have it all together. I absolutely don’t. I am however no longer in that place where on days when I have nothing doing, I feel like my life has no purpose. What changed?

1. I know now that God has great plans for me. When He created me, He had plans and though I might not have seen the big picture, I know God has plans for my life and those plans are great.

2. I know that God is here with me and as long as I am at the center of His will, I cannot miss it.

3. I know that His spirit is in me to guide me and to work in me both to will and to do of whatever pleases God. That means if there is anything God will have me do, the Holy Spirit will let me know.

There are still days when I feel so chocked but it is the confidence of these three things that helps me breathe. Sometimes, it takes just one – like knowing that God is here with me; that I can hold his hand & tell Him anything; and there is nothing bothering me that He cannot handle – sometimes, that one knowledge is all it takes to help me breathe.

Seun Olagunju

I am telling you this because though our circumstances might be different, all three things listed above apply to you too. So remember these anytime worry starts to eat off your mind.

Also remember that finding purpose is a step by step, day after day thing. The next time you feel those small nudges in your heart – to give milk to your next door neighbor, to give a dress to a friend, to open your room to someone you’ve noticed has no room,  do them. They may look small (unnoticed or not worth being featured in a magazine for) but God is pleased with you because you are doing what He wants you to do, not what you see others doing or you just think is the right thing.

Finally remember that purpose is not all about doing. There is also the place of becoming in fulfilling purpose. Who is the Holy Spirit making you into?

I can decide to start going to the orphanage because I see my friend doing it, missing the fact that it could be God’s Spirit who is at work in her that has made her kind. That is who she is – kind and that’s why she does orphanage work.

It is who you are that should define the things you do. So learn to focus more on who the Holy Spirit is making you into and not just on what you should be ‘doing’. If at all, be more concerned with being in tune with God’s Spirit and doing the things that he requires of you, no matter how small, one step at a time.

It is who you are that should define the things you do.

That’s all I have to share guys. I hope that you learnt something. If you did, share it with me in the comments below. Also, have you ever felt bad about not doing anything when others were? Can you relate with some of the phases that I went through on my journey to finding purpose? If yes, I want to hear all about yours. Share them with me in the comments as well.

Till later, with love ❤, guys.


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Author: Seun Olagunju

I'm just a simple 24-year-old girl, living for One and working to make the world a better place than I met it. I love to teach and tell stories, which is what I do as a blogger. I'm also the founder of Beyond the Surface Development Initiative. There, I reach out to teenagers by educating and empowering them, with an aim to curb the increasing number of teenage pregnancies and school drop-outs in Nigeria. When I'm not writing or involved in a social project, I work as a Product Manager with a tech firm in Lagos, Nigeria.

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